Monday, August 27, 2018

The Calligrapher's Daughter, Eugenia Kim


The Calligrapher’s Daughter

by Eugenia Kim

(Tansley Reads Rating: 74%)
 
Icebreaker:

1.               Are there stories in your own family’s history that might contain the seeds of a novel?

 

Questions:

1.               What if Najin had been the daughter of a carpenter, grocer, teacher, etc?  How different do you think her life would have been then?

2.               While Najin is the primary narrator of The Calligrapher’s Daughter, many chapters are written from the points-of-view of her father and her mother.  How did seeing Najin’s world from their perspective alter your understanding of it?

3.               Najin’s father, the calligrapher Han, is very traditional.  Did he fear change or was he simply stubborn?  What did change represent to him?  What does he gain by maintaining old customs?  What does he lose?  Did your perceptions of him change as the novel progressed?

4.              

(a)             Why did Najin’s father refuse to name his daughter?

(b)             What do you think of Najin’s discovery that, by her father not giving her a name, had given her “enormous freedom” (p.374)?

5.              

(a)             Why do you think Najin’s father blamed her for a lot of the bad things that happened in his life?

(b)             Why do you think Najin’s father felt that his relationship with his daughter changed after she returns from living with Calvin’s parents (p.294)?

6.               Ilsun, Najin’s brother (whom she calls Dongsaeng), often seems to bring trouble upon himself and his family.  What special pressures does he face as the firstborn son?  Could you empathize at all with his behaviours?

7.               Despite the Korean Confucian standard of male supremacy during that era, may of the women in The Calligrapher’s Daughter managed to find meaning and fulfillment in their lives.  What personal choices, if any, did Najin’s mother, her mother-in-law and her two sisters-in-law (Unsook and Meeja) make within the confines of their roles?

8.               How do you feel about the vision Najin’s mother had before her birth (p. 54)?  [Quote:  “Yes, and for your too.  In my further month with you, I dreamt of catching a small white fish between my hands as I waded in a lovely stream, so coo, so fresh, so clean.  Such a beautiful little, fish, it made me laugh in my dream and I woke up laughing!  That was you.”]  Do you think it describes Najin’s true character?

9.               Najin use the vision she and her mother shared:  “Like water, flowing around beneath and through rotted trees, we would always flow” (p.184) to help her survive in difficult circumstances (when her father was looking for a husband for her, when she was in prison, etc.).  Why does this image help her?

10.            Najin and her mother seem to share a deep understanding of all the bet qualities in a mother-daughter relationship, yet the word “love” is never spoken.  What are some of those qualities and how were they conveyed?

11.            As an adult, Najin tries to keep her personal trials to herself, such as her silence about the torture she witnessed in prison.  Where did her ability to suppress feelings stem from?  Could she have been more expressive?  When might it have served her better if she were more forthcoming with her feelings and difficulties?

12.            Najin experiences faith and belief in varying degrees.  When does her faith feel strongest to her, and when does it ebb?  Why do you think she is unable to sustain a consistent belief?  Given here conflicted feelings about religion, did you think she made the right decision to marry a seminarian?

13.            How do you think Najin’s life would have been different if she had been able to join Calvin in the U.S.A?

14.            Most of the married couples in The Calligrapher’s Daughter (parents, in-laws, Najin/Calvin, servant couple, brother/wives) face severe stresses during at least one point of their relationship.  Discuss the different challenges thrust upon them, as well as how they deal with them.  What does this novel say about love?  What does it say about fidelity?

15.            Eugenia Kim has said that her novel was inspired by the life of her mother, and that the “writing experience radically changed my regard for my mother and my father, as well as my own Korean-American identity, in the most enriching positive way”.  Relating back to our icebreaker, can you think of any personal instances where, by finding out more about a family member (or other person), gave you a better understanding of their situation or personality, and possibly a better appreciation thereof, than what you knew about them “on the surface”?

OR

16.            In an interview, Eugenia Kim indicates that her mother’s English was better than Eugenia’s English, which is how they communicated most times.  In deciding whether to write about her mother’s stories, she states:  “I inherently knew that with my English ears and her Korean storytelling, my act of listening was in itself an act of fiction, and with the MFA (Masters of Fine Arts) from Bennington College came the conclusion that fiction was the most effective way to bring an emotional truth to the stories and living personality to the characters”.  Do you agree?  Was she successful in achieving these objectives in The Calligrapher’s Daughter?

17.            Were you satisfied with the ending of the novel?

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